On & Off The Mat – A Yoga Blog

by Christy DeBurton

 

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BY MADISYN TAYLOR
Your aversion to some people may actually be your response to fear that specific qualities you see in them also exist within you.

 

As much as most of us wish we could exist in harmony with the people we encounter throughout our lives, there will always be individuals we dislike. Some simply rub us the wrong way while others strike us as deliberately unaware. We may judge others as too mean or abrasive for us to interact with them comfortably. Yet no person should be deemed a villain because their beliefs, opinions, mannerisms, and mode of being are not compatible with your own. You need not embrace the rough traits they have chosen to embody. There may be times in which the best course of action involves distancing yourself from someone you dislike. But circumstances may require that you spend time in the company of individuals who awaken your aversion. In such cases, you can ease your discomfort by showing your foe loving compassion while examining your feelings carefully.

 

The reasons we dislike some individuals are often complex and, at first, indecipherable. Often, we are automatically averse to people who are different because they compel us to question our values, spirituality, culture, and ideologies, threatening to undermine our self-assurance. Realistically, however, those you dislike have no power to weaken your life’s foundations. In fact, your aversion to specific individuals may actually be your response to your fear that specific qualities you see in them also exist within you. Their presence may force you to face internal issues you would rather not confront. If you meet someone who inspired an intense, largely negative response in you, ask yourself why your reaction is so laden with powerful emotions. Remember that you control your feelings and, if necessary, you can minimize this individual’s impact on your well-being by choosing how you will respond to them.

 

Though you may not have an immediate breakthrough, your willingness to consider your dislike rationally can help you better understand the root of your feelings. Your aversion to certain individuals may not wane over time, yet the comprehension you gain through reflection can help you interact with them sympathetically, benevolently, and with a greater degree of kindness. There is nothing wrong with recognizing that you are incompatible with some people. You may never achieve a shared harmony with those you dislike, but you can nonetheless learn to modulate your reactions to these individuals and, ultimately, to coexist peacefully with them.

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What should I wear, what should I bring, and when should I arrive for my first yoga class?

You may want to bring a yoga mat, water bottle, a perhaps a hand towel. If you don’t have a mat I have extras here students may borrow until they get their own. If you use props in your practice (blocks, straps, etc.) please bring them. Fitted exercise clothing is recommended. Yoga is practiced in bare feet. First-timers should get to the studio 10 minutes before class starts to meet your yoga instructor and ask any questions. Please bring your Session Intention form that you were sent with you so that your instructor can go over it with you before class begins. Please, no cell phones in the studio (even if they are off). 

 

Is there a place to change or shower?
Yes, there is a bathroom with a shower at the studio.

 

Why should I choose The Yoga Room over other yoga studios?
First, owner and instructor Christy DeBurton has over two decades of teaching experience! Also, we take a unique approach with our weekly classes by designing two-month sessions around a specific theme – Study of the Chakras, Spring Cleaning for Body & Mind, Yoga for Core Strength & Balance, the 7 Spiritual Laws of Yoga – so that students learn much more than just yoga poses each time they come to class. Class sizes are small at our private studio– a maximum of 7 students–so that each student is able to receive individual attention. Finally, the yoga studio is an experience in itself, a charming ‘cottage’ in a quiet, garden setting with a high ceiling, cork floor, and lots of windows overlooking the swimming pool and pine trees.

 

Why do students have to sign up for a session of classes?

You don’t have to sign up for a full session, but most people do as there is a specific theme to the session and often the classes build upon one another. If you sign up for the full session you are also guaranteed a spot; since classes have a maximum of 7 students in them this is your safest bet to be able to get into a class every week. I run my classes in sessions because to see the benefits of yoga you need to make a regular commitment to it. It is hard for us humans to be disciplined sometimes, and this is a good way to hold yourself accountable.

 

What if I have to miss a class during a session?

Students are welcome to make up any classes they miss in the same session for which they’re registered. You just have to cancel the class you can’t attend at least 2 hours in advance or else you forfeit your make-up. I have a handy Student Class Management/Online Booking System that helps you with this.

 

Why is there a fragrance policy at The Yoga Room?
We ask students to refrain from wearing fragrances or scented products (lotions, perfumes, deodorants, hairspray, fabric softeners, etc.) to class, and if you’ve bought a new mat, consider airing it out before bringing it to class, because some of us have sensitivities to synthetic fragrances and chemicals. No fragrances means EVERYONE can take nice deep yoga breaths!

 

How do I sign up for a session of classes?
Please contact me directly at info@christydeburton.com to check on class availability and request to be put on our email list to find out about upcoming sessions.

 

How do I sign up to drop in and/or just try out a class?
Please contact me directly at info@christydeburton.com to check on class availability for drop-ins if you do not already have an account for my online booking system. If you are interested I can also create an account for you.

 

Can I attend your yoga classes if I’ve never done yoga before? What is a good first class to try?
Absolutely! Our classes range in challenge from gentler to more advanced. We recommend those who have never taken yoga before start with a Hatha class. PM Hatha is gentler than AM.

 

What if I’m not that flexible?
Yoga actually promotes flexibility. You don’t have to be flexible to start doing yoga. During the workday, much of our activity, or lack thereof, shortens muscles. Think about how often you either sit at a desk, in your car or at home. Yoga lengthens and strengthens muscles while helping release stress. Becoming more flexible is a great benefit of yoga, but even more than that, yoga helps us to live more powerfully and peacefully in body, mind and spirit. This gain happens regardless of whether or not you can touch your toes!

 

What are heat levels like in yoga classes?
I do not have a set temperature I keep the studio at. I believe in moderation and energy conservation. Therefore, you will not find the heat cranked in the winter or the AC blowing full-blast in the summer. I keep the studio at a comfortable temperature for most people year round. I encourage students to wear layers and regulate their own body temperature.

 

Is there a minimum age to attend classes at The Yoga Room?
I recommend parents wait until their children are 12 years old to attend. Those 12 to 15 must practice with a parent or guardian. If parents would like to bring a younger child, please contact me to ask about using the loft space for the two of you during a class.

 

How many classes a week should I take?
A successful yoga practice requires discipline, consistency and commitment. To experience the true benefits of a yoga practice, I recommend taking at least one yoga class a week year round. Some of my students take two classes a week with me, and some even take three! The more you are able to take, the more benefits you will see.

 

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What Makes People Tick?

BY MADISYN TAYLOR

Many people are very different from ourselves and coming to a place of acceptance can make the road easier.

 

All people have their own way of being in the world. It is easiest to comprehend this basic yet profound fact when we consider that every human being on the planet occupies a distinct role in the universe. We grow up in different environments, affected by a unique range of influences. The preferences, values, and beliefs we embrace are frequently related intimately to our origins. And the need to individualize our experiences is instinctive, as doing so enables us to cope when we must face challenges on our own. Consequently, each of us has developed a perspective that is uniquely ours. Interacting peacefully and constructively with people from all walks of life is a matter of first understanding where they are coming from. Then we can adjust our expectations so that we avoid making undue assumptions about what they are about.

 

In the face of emerging interpersonal conflict, it is easy to assume that others are being difficult, unreasonable, or stubborn. We are apt to grow frustrated when someone in our environment does not share our opinions or feel compelled to support us in our endeavors. It is likely that the individual or individuals before us may simply possess differing notions with regard to what is and what is not important in this life. We can ease the tension that exists between us by reaffirming our belief in the fundamental right of all beings to determine their own destinies. To foster a harmonious relationship, we need to do our best to relate to the unique universes they inhabit. And as we discover what makes them tick, our ability to find a mode of interaction that is pleasing to both of us is enhanced.

 

When there are barriers keeping you from connecting with someone else, think of questions you can ask them to gain a more thorough understanding of their point of view. You may discover that in addition to the differences in perspective dividing you, they are subject to insecurities and other personal issues that influence their way of seeing the world. It is likely that you will never fully grasp the myriad complexities embodied by humanity, but you can go a long way toward encouraging mutually satisfying relations by reaching out to others in the spirit of sympathetic comprehension.

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Giving Excuses by Madisyn Taylor

 
When we offer nothing but excuses in our lives, we are not being honest with anybody, mostly ourselves.

 

Excuses may seem like rational reasons for us not to do something, but if we’re not careful we can allow them to keep us from reaching our goals. Too often we accept our excuses as reasons why we cannot accomplish what we set out to do, and instead of finding alternatives we give up. But if we can be honest with ourselves and take responsibility for our choices, we will begin to notice that we no longer give excuses. When we keep our minds focused on our goals, we will find that excuses fade away in the light of our priorities, and issues become challenges that can help us become wiser and stronger.

 

Sometimes we may give others excuses rather than be fully honest. We may think it is kind to tell someone we are willing to do something with them, whether work or play, but then keep putting them off. This diverts our energy into keeping the truth at a distance while continuing a falsehood. But when we can take responsibility for our feelings and express them honestly, but gently, the other person is free to find someone who is better suited to accompany them while we are free to pursue the things we like. When we can do this, our energy can be invested in building better lives and relationships.

 

There’s another way in which excuses rob us of energy–and that is in the power of our thoughts and words. If we find ourselves in a situation, for example, where we are being asked for a financial contribution but we use the excuse that we can’t afford it, we create and attract lack and limitation into our lives. The same goes for seemingly simple things like pretending to not feel well or any other false statement. We may think that excuses make things easier, but they complicate matters with smokescreens. When we can commit to our priorities, take responsibility for our choices, and communicate them honestly to others, there will be no need to make excuses, and we will have much more energy to dedicate to all the things we love.

 

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By Madisyn Taylor

 

Conflict should always be met with open ears and an open heart.

 

Conflict is an unavoidable part of our lives because our beliefs and modes of being often contrast powerfully with those of our loved ones, acquaintances, and associates. Yet for all the grief disagreements can cause, we can learn much from them. The manner in which we handle ourselves when confronted with anger or argument demonstrates our overall level of patience and the quality of our energetic states. To resolve conflict, no matter how exasperating the disagreement at hand, we should approach our adversary with an open heart laden with compassion. Judgments and blame must be cast aside and replaced with mutual respect. Conflict is frequently motivated by unspoken needs that are masked by confrontational attitudes or aggressive behavior. When we come at conflict with love and acceptance in our hearts, we empower ourselves to discover a means to attaining collective resolution.

 

The key to finding the wisdom concealed in conflict is to ask yourself why you clash with a particular person or situation. Your inner self or the universe may be trying to point you to a specific life lesson, so try to keep your ears and eyes open. Once you have explored the internal and external roots of your disagreement, make a conscious effort to release any anger or resentment you feel. As you do so, the energy between you and your adversary with change perceptibly, even if they are still operating from a more limited energy state. Consider that each of you likely has compelling reasons for thinking and feeling as you do, and accept that you have no power to change your adversary’s mind. This can help you approach your disagreement rationally, with a steady voice and a willingness to compromise.

 

If you listen thoughtfully and with an empathetic ear during conflict, you can transform clashes into opportunities to compromise. Examine your thoughts and feelings carefully. You may discover stubbornness within yourself that is causing resistance or that you are unwittingly feeding yourself negative messages about your adversary. As your part in disagreements becomes gradually more clear, each new conflict becomes another chance to further hone your empathy, compassion, and tolerance.

 

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I don’t know if any of you get the Daily OM delivered to your inbox each day, but lately the topics have really been resonating with me so I thought I’d share them here on my blog. Hopefully they give you some insights, inspiration and perhaps a little validation too!

 

Accepting Compliments by Madisyn Taylor

When we willingly accept compliments, we are reminded that others see us through different eyes.

 

Many of us find it difficult to accept compliments but easy to believe the slightest criticism. Today, right now, let’s make a choice to fully accept compliments as we would a gift. Sincere compliments are gifts of praise. They are kudos given for wise choices or accomplishments or perhaps for just letting your light shine. There is no reason not to accept the gift of a kind word, but some of us argue against them, even giving reasons why they aren’t true.

 

If we visualize the energy of a compliment, we would see beautiful, shining, positive energy being sent from the giver. That energy, if accepted graciously, would brighten our personal energy field. Our gratitude then returns to the giver as warm, fuzzy, glowing energy, completing an even circuit of good feelings. But if we reject a compliment, what could have been a beautiful exchange becomes awkward and uncomfortable, making it a negative experience instead. Misplaced modesty can ruin the joy of sharing this connection with another person. But we can accept a compliment and still be modest by simply saying “thank you.” However, if compliments are rejected due to a lack of self-esteem, then the first step would be to start believing good things about yourself. Try giving yourself compliments in the mirror. Beyond the initial feelings of silliness, you will notice how good it feels and can watch the smile it puts on your face. The next step would be to see how it feels to give compliments to others. Notice how great you feel when you’ve made another person’s face brighten and how differently you feel when the gift you’ve offered is rejected. Having experienced all sides, you will be ready to play along fully and willingly.

 

We are our harshest critics. When we accept compliments, we are reminded that others see us through different eyes. All living beings crave positive attention, and we all deserve to have positive energy shared with us. Perhaps if we happily and gratefully accept compliments, we will give others permission to do so as well.

 

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meditation challenge

 

By now we have all heard of the benefits of meditation: it reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, boosts immunity, improves concentration, re-wires our brain to think more positively and so much more.

 

Join me for a 28 Day Meditation Challenge and get the tools and encouragement you need to make meditation a daily habit!

 

Part 1: Saturday, March 17, 10:15am-12:15pm

In this 2-hour workshop we will explore the basics of meditation—experimenting with different styles, asking questions, talking about misconceptions—all of which will prepare us for our journey of putting it into practice over the next 21 days.

 

Part 2: Saturday, April 14, 10:15am – 12:15pm

Research shows you get the most benefits from meditation when you do it for greater lengths of time in a retreat setting. We’ll end our 21-day challenge by coming together again for a 2-hour meditation ‘mini-retreat,’ interspersed with light yoga, breaks and group discussion.

 

In between:

You’ll receive weekly doses of inspiration, resources and more to help keep you on track!

 

For more details and to register click HERE!

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This past Saturday a lovely group gathered for a contemplative day of yoga, meditation, journaling and self-reflection centered around the Chakras. We began with a little warm-up Kundalini Yoga kriya for our aura. From there retreatants spent time with each chakra–or energy center in our body–as they chose: listening to readings about how life situations affect our chakras, journaling, spending time in Yin yoga poses best suited for balancing each chakra, meditating, and some even gave their chakras a nice rest by taking little cat-naps! ;) We broke up our quiet time with a delicious plant-based lunch of Curried Red Lentil Coconut soup, hummus, crackers, bread and my favorite chocolate cupcakes with salted (vegan) buttercream frosting. It was very much an opportunity for rest, relaxation and self-reflection, which is so often missing in our day-to-day lives. I am so happy that this group took the time to invest in some uplifting self-care! If you are interested in doing the same, keep an eye out for upcoming Immersions and 1/2 Days Retreats HERE

 

Here’s what a few of the participants had to say: 

 

“I haven’t felt that blissful in a long time.  Learning about the chakras and their governing areas all in one day really made me feel as if my energy was bursting, yet there was a calm center. The delicious lunch was an added bonus!” -JW

 

“The half-day Chakra Retreat was so worthwhile. If you need a day to relax and reduce your stress this is the event for you. We learned, in detail, about Chakras, had time to meditate and think through things. The lunch was vegan and superb.  Do this if you need to take a break and slow down your thoughts and body, it is so healing. Also, Christy is a great cook. ” -SM

 

“Thank you Christy, I so enjoyed the Chakra Immersion day. The Kundalini warm-up was invigorating and the time to reflect and meditate were helpful. Your lovely lunch and conversation in your beautiful home was special.” -GJ

 

Here are a few pictures from the retreat. You can click on them for a slightly larger view.

 

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Calling all yoga teachers! I am looking for experienced Hatha, Vinyasa & Yin teachers for both short-term and long-term opportunities in 2018. The pay is great, the classes are small and the space is beautiful. Contact me at info@christydeburton.com for further details.

 

 

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chakras

 

The New Year is the perfect time to let go of what no longer serves you and make room for what will. Join me during this 1/2 Day Retreat to dive deeper into the chakras—or energy centers—within your body, and use them to resolve any issues holding you back from being the best version of yourself.

 

We will spend time examining our physical and emotional relationship to each chakra and work with them to find balance and healing through: 

 

*KUNDALINI & YIN YOGA

*MEDITATION

*CONTEMPLATION

*JOURNALING

 

Healthy vegan lunch included. Invest in some self-care for the New Year. You are worth it!

 

Saturday, January 27, 2018

10:30am-2:30pm

$105 by 1/13; $115 after

Click HERE to register!

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